给情侣们......

谈恋爱其实是什么？！每个人应该都有自己的见解。
我认为，一起恋爱，是一起分享彼此的生活，而不是其中一方照顾另一方；另一方一味依赖其中一方。。我一直都这么认为。
有一天，有一位朋友说“是哦，现在你拍拖了，我可以跟你问你感情的问题了。” zzz =.="
我一直以来都有自己的见解，这跟我有没有男朋友没关系。可以随时问我，但请不要一直追问我的感情事。
虽然一直以来我都没有拍拖，曾经很想，曾经觉得可有可无，曾经不想。。。。
因为我觉得，一直以来我自己一个人，好好的，没必要多一个人分享或缭乱我的生活。
或许，我太眷恋自由自在的生活。

一直以来，我都有观察自己身边的情侣。
一些每天好像双胞胎，分不开。
一些每天斗嘴，好了又吵，吵了又好。
（我曾经跟一位朋友说，其实他对你很好，不要一直抱怨，应该珍惜）
*如果我看不到这一点，我一定不会说
一些感情如儿戏，换恋人如换衣。
没有多加的批评，只是觉得，这样真的开心点吗？
是不是恋爱多了，经验多了，威水点？还是，只想做不同的尝试？
一些可以一整天不联络，缺乏沟通。彼此间的‘沟通’只是交待。

最近来到新的环境，新的朋友，新的情侣。
一开始，我觉得他们很好，应该不错。怎知后来才知道，双方的记录应该都不好。
（原谅我的老土，或许多一点的恋爱经验，并不等于不良记录）
仔细观察以后，发现，女的总是要男的帮她做东西。
开始，每一天早上看到男朋友给女朋友准备早餐，很幸福，很浪漫。
可是，久了，我就觉得，有一天，男朋友会厌倦这种生活吗？因为，其实彼此都会享受别人为自己准备早餐的时刻。
好像是我第一次听说他们吵架以后，我看到女朋友准备早餐。
或许，女生都不应该做粗重的工作，这代表男生对自己的疼爱？
我只是觉得，男朋友好像做多了。
其实，一些东西女生也可以做，也可以自己学习。
一起恋爱，不一定是指定一方侍候另一方。
我认为，一起做，效果应该更好一些。

我其实不喜欢看到情侣吵架，即使只为小事争吵。
因为我觉得，吵得多了，感情一定会有裂缝。
而裂缝，或许是无法弥补的。
裂缝随时分裂，或永远留在哪里。。。
而且，有时候，这些争吵也会给我带来烦恼。
两个不同的个体，一定会有争吵时，只是，太多的争吵，便对感情造成伤害了。
或许该听听大家的想法，再寻找共同点。
没有共识，就应该无法走同一条路。

争吵，或许可以带来更多的沟通，而让彼此了解。
虽然我不赞同，只是，一些情侣甚至没有沟通，只是觉得应该交待。
就对彼此交待大家做了什么东西。或许他是你生活的一部分，但绝不是你心灵的一部分。
这或许是一种惯性依赖，只是我想，一天，大家没有了话题，往后的日子，要怎么走下去。
每天看着对方，觉得对方没变，便等于安好？
其实，生活里，还有很多可以分享的东西。人的想法、见解是会随着时间而改变。
缺乏沟通，或许一天，你会发现，你最熟悉的人，成为一位陌生人。
那是可悲的一天。

到现在，每当我看见满头银发的老夫妻牵着彼此的手走在路上，心中总是莫名感动、羡慕。
我想，两人可以走过半世人的日子，应该不简单，当众一起经历的。。。。
因为现在的婚姻也如儿戏般。婚姻不是一个保障。
我看到自己的父母，到现在还有很多的话题，一起出街，我还是深深的祝福。
希望他们可以一直这样下去。。。。

以前，对恋爱有一定的见解。那些，应该都不会错。
只是，后来才体会了一些细节，一些事情，想、说、做，未必是一样的。
生活，是一起学习、分享。
=)

珍惜眼前人，如果他/她不是对的人，或许真的不该浪费时间。
付出的未必等于回报，只是没有回报，付出的，好像白费了。
意义也没有了。

看到一些情侣分手了，不一定觉得可惜。
一些感情，是应该结束，不该浪费任何一方的感情、时间。
只是不明白，为什么一些人可以盲目地恋爱？！
或许我真的太理智，太清醒！

Birthday in London

It was just like dreaming when I knew I'm going to spend my birthday in London.
London, such a big city where I dun ever dare to think to have such a chance to go there during my day..
Feel please to have the chance =)
And yet, i dun have any excitement in my heart though it is such a dreamy place to me.
It's just like when I had to depart from MAS.
To me, it is more important to spend the day with someone else....
My friends who I'm well know with, crazy tgt~~ My family... My love one....
I was missing them badly during the time... They are the most important ppl to me...
This could be said as my most quiet birthday I have since I came out to study, no celebration, no cake, no birthday song...
I rather to celebrate my birthday in my homeland, with someone i'm familiar to...

London has anything I want... full with crowds, foods, etc.....
I saw koreans, japanese, chinese everywhere... wondering how good London is, why are the ppl coming here?
Besides, the transportation system is so good, excellent accessibility.
And yet, i think it is just in London but not all the states in England.... Not fully developed yet.
But, it is better KL make good the place 1st..
And... I could also see ppl with different kind of fashion on the streets.. Salute to them!
And.. finally i know, London is really a big city... I walked so much there....
I couldnt believe that i could walk so far....
I think, London is somewhere worth visiting... Quite a lovely n attractive city......

Finally, at the age of 22nd, i step on London...
Been to River Thames, Tower Bridge, House of Parliament, St. Paul's Cathedral.... etc
Somewhere i looked at pics since i were so young.. long long time ago...
I couldnt believe i was there.
But, there were not as pretty as in my mind...

My birthday ended up with Korean food with my friends...
Thank you~ ^^
Even it was simple, and yet after a tiring day, they still walk further to the restaurant..

Again, i wish everyone stay healthy n happily.... beware of H1N1*
And... i hope i can score the best result i could achieve =)

22nd... hmm~~~ i remember i couldnt accept that i was 20 years old...
And, it was 2 year ago...
Jui said, we are no more 18-22... Yup, we are not....
Hope that we could face the fact, and grow more matured, more responsible with our life...
At least, to have a target to go on~~~
22nd... it seems like, i still have nth~~~
Life, keep on to go, and I didnt make any change for it..
Let it be.......
This year, no more unacceptable feel... just... no feel, missing home land...
Age, sth i couldnt control...
And i think, i should grow up as time goes on....
I hope i do...

In London, i almost forget that was my birthday... Maybe, i dun have any celebration...
Without a cake... Anyway, i'd like to buy one for myself during my lunar calendar birthday..
Sound pity...

生日，其实只是普通的一天。
只想天天都开心 =)

Busy life in Liverpool

Hmm... time always flies without waiting for anyone.. This is the 3rd week in Liverpool....
For the 1st 2 weeks, it was quite enjoying... We had 2 hours classes per day... Gosh, what a relax studying life here. I thought, I was wrong by expecting the hard life here.
[According to seniors, studying in Liverpool John Moores University (LJMU) is much tougher than study in Sheffield Hallam University (SHU)]
I was thinking, how could seniors said tough with such a life? 2 hours class, then u could go around the city centre, walk around, do some shopping or window shopping, etc....

Nightmare begins...
Yesterday was the starting of 3rd week with a new subject, which is about cost and financial.
When I first get the handout, I looked at the schedule of the module... My eyes brighten up with sth... "Group Presentation"
There is group presentation on the next day, and it's going to be held throughout the 2 weeks module daily. GOSH!!!!!!!
What is this? It means, we are going to have daily assignment and have to present it on the next day..... >,<

I was really really upset with that, frustrated life.... Disgusting!
Maybe it is a long time i have been having my holiday, relaxing all the way without using my brain. And yet, i think, my brain need sometime to warm up.... zzz
I dun like a rushing life, just busying doing thing from day to night, before sleep, after i wake up..

That's why, on the moment, i'm looking forward to the weekends. At least i think, i could give myself some time, to tidy up myself. And also to let my hair down....
I always need time for myself, just to tidy up my own mind, prepare for the next week. Doing sth i like to....

Tension life.
Fighting with time for the assignments...
Searching some info which we do not know previously from none....
Hope that, everything going to be fine and get used with it...
=)

聊天

刚刚，突然有一位不太熟悉的朋友到我的房间来聊天。其实，只是普通谈天。
在我们这种阶段，很自然就会聊到毕业以后要到哪里工作。
听她说完，我觉得自己很幸福。在外读书的这些日子，我并没有打过工。
一路以来，都在享受生活。日子总是嘻嘻哈哈，除了功课的压力，基本上已经没有了。
我从来不担心钱不够用，也从来不想要向任何机构借钱读书。
毕业以后，就只需要给家人生活费，如果允许，就给更多，以作这么多年来的养育之恩

我们当然也有聊聊这里的生活。她说，她希望留在这里，因为马来西亚无法赚钱。
（她还有一大笔读书债）因此她说，想在这里工作。是的。。。因为兑换率，而且没有繁忙、古燥的生活。
或许他们努力过，他们已经迈进享受的时候。
这里的人，日出而作，日入而息，很享受的生活。
吉隆坡，车水马龙，四处喧哗。。。。。

再来，便聊到感情。她说，很多情侣来了英国读书以后，毕业以后，便分道扬镳
原因是因为双方都坚持在自己的家乡工作，从此断绝联络。
听来好像很残忍，可是这就是事实。
两个人在一起，就要相互忍让，互相迁就。
但愿，我没有这样的一天。

渐渐，对于自己的这一段感情建立起一定的信心。坦白说，对我来说不容易。
忽然听到这样的事实。。。 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！

对于前程，我还不知道。
因为，我觉得马来西亚比较有归属感。
因为，我不知道自己是否可以度过一个人的日子。
农历新年，中秋，冬至。。。。。。。。。佳节倍思亲。
突然，前路茫茫

累，晚安

All About Me = YaNQl

It has been a real long long time i dun update myself in the blog.
It is all because of the laziness in my body, running everywhere throughout my body from head to toe.
The long 4-mths holidays had marked an end, and i already started a new life in Liverpool. Which mean, i have to continue to study again.
After so long, i dunno is it ok for me to pick up myself in study.

It was about preparing the resit paper... Den, unknown direction...
Dunno could i pass the paper even i know how to do. Just worried about the paper, maybe the lecturer purposely to mark strictly.. Or.... etc
I could felt the strong heart beat when i was checking my result..
Thanks God, i had passed the paper and immediately to prepare myself to Liverpool...

During that time, my maid's contract terminated and have to help mum for house works at home...
After sitting n eating at home for months, it's really tiring to work so 'hard' everyday... I'm sure that my stamina had reduced tremendously...
I felt tired..... zzz

Until the eve before i depart to Liverpool...
I felt a lot ppl concerning on me. My aunts & uncles kept calling to me, chatting to me...
My aunts even on-leave just to send me to airport... Oh no!!!!!
Thousands of thank you in my heart to them... =)
[Hmm, honestly, i not really wan to leave MAS]

The moment the aeroplane departed from KLIA, my tears well up in my eyes.
I wished to stay... That is somewhere belongs to me, and i have all my thing there..
Family, friends, and everything.........
During the 1st night here, i really felt the loneliness when i turn off the light and prepared to sleep...
Felt to cry again... ;'(
I couldnt believe i had become such a gal.... I was so tough......
Maybe a cancer does really love home.

There was none excitement grown in my heart even the moment i arrived in London airport.. >.<
Sorry for tat, not to show off or anything...
During the 1st few days, i saw planes flying above the sky...
I was thinking, when would i take plane again and back to somewhere i belong to?
After a week, i had settled down, and getting used to here...
And yet, in my mind.. i still wish the arrival of the day to return home.

At here, white men everywhere.. Sometimes, i couldnt understand what they talked to me. Learning the new culture...
Shops shut in the evening, probably no night life...
silent streets since around 8pm... Cool weather~~~ bread meals...

It isnt hard for me to suit myself into a new life...
But i do really miss home...

Here, i get new friends.. but i dun really talk much to them...
I miss my best friends....

Maybe, i'd love the life here.. soon, or never...
Just wish that i'd experience sth here before i leave...
=)

天水圍的日與夜

天水圍的日與夜 -- 是一部香港電影，講述香港某一個平窮地區 -- 天水圍的生活故事。
就在金像獎以前得知了這一部戯，獲悉是部蠻有意義的戯。
一直都很想看。前陣子在KL的時候曾經試過在 PP Stream 找，可是找不到。
今天朋友告訴我有了。
今天剛剛從KL回來，很累，不想做東西，所以就看了這一部戯。

這電影的拍攝手法，過於簡單，往往就是單一個鏡頭，主角在那裏幹活。
就這樣，樸實的生活。

這電影讓我想到很多。自己、父母、弟妹、朋友、等等等等......
那些感觸一時湧上心頭。。
覺得自己的生活無聊，沒意義
害怕別人忘恩負義，深怕自己不飲水思源
將來老了，是否孤獨一人
以後，我會有一番作爲嗎？
很多很多。。。。

原本想寫，很長，很長，關於電影的觀後感。
後來跟媽媽聊聊，就這樣忘記了。。。
或許，大家都該看看，或許會有另一番體會。

一个月

好想睡觉，因为觉得不舒服。可是，就是睡不着。
就忽然想来这里写东西。

一个月前，我把一段原本不想开始的恋情，弄得越来越模糊。
后来我觉得，不如就试一试，反正，好像已经回不了头。
就这样，我们开始了。
或许经过一段还算漫长的过渡期，所以我并不觉得生活上起了多大的变化。
只是，现在是名正言顺，出街、单独相处等。

在这以前，我已经好一段时间没有跟朋友分享我生活的点滴。
他的出现，让我开始与人分享我的生活。
直到现在，我们之间分享的东西，更多了。

对于这一段感情，坦白说，我没有很大的信心。
因为我总是认为，两个恋人需要长期相处，要在一起生活。
而我们，为了升学，或许需要几年以后才可以一起生活。
或许，我们根本到达不了这一点。
现在，想得没那么长远，然而还是抱着一线希望。

还没开始以前，想了很多。
开始以后，好像没想了。
望，一切安好。
生活，是充满变数的。

忽然

忽然，很想在这里写一写
其实，想写很久了，脑海里的情绪一直搁浅
然后，忘记

忽然，很害怕自己去不了英国
因为，我的其中一科不及格了
然而，还是吊儿郎当

忽然，开始从新追戏
其实，是妹妹要我一起看
不然，我不会这么快就快看完

忽然，领悟到，看戏真的可以霸占我一整天的时间
其实，我觉得很恐怖
好像，我的岁月就这样蹉跎了

忽然，我的‘老鼠’死了
其实，是弟弟闹着玩，把线给剪断了
当然，我真的很伤心，我捉着他打

忽然，不想睡觉
因为，刚才心情不好，出去吃了宵夜
其实，是挂念他

忽然，真的觉得自己空虚
因为，我好像不知道自己过着什么样的日子
只是，我只能等待从生的那一天

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很多事情，可以发生得忽然
很多事情，无法在我们的撑控之内
很多很多的事情发生了，一天以内，却又好像什么也没做
废废的日子，过得好难受
只是，我也没有勇气提出我想要的生活
我也没在受限的范围找出属于我的一片天空

Recently....

It seems like been a long time i dont update myself here..
I'm having my long long vacation in my hometown.
We always hope for vacation when we are too busy with something and feel tired.
And yet, i know myself quite well that i dont hope for such a long holiday.
I think, it might be just right enough if it is just a 1 month holiday.
Maybe i would only require for a longer holiday if i could monitor and schedule the holiday myself.

It is just right one month time since the CNY.
I have been wasting my time doing sth meaningless.
I would want to do sth else, but... It seems like couldnt as i know my mum would not allow me to do so~~
hope to learn sth else, but. what to learn?
Wanna do nth, but. Would be scolded non-stop by parents.
Wanna go on trips, but. No money n parents say, it is yet the time for me to enjoy.
Wanna work, but. My sister working now, and i think i should stay at home to assist my mum at least a little bit. (maybe i think too much..)

... ...
... ...

Friendship~

= Em, this post is sth i wanted to write for quite some time. =

Over the years since i started to online, i started to write out sth about myself online. Even it is quite unsecured and being published to public, yet i still write it out.
I have forgotten why did i do so, but now, it is certainly because of lazy to write and have forgotten lots of the words especially chinese words.

During the secondary school, i think friendship is quite important to everyone. It might be more important than ur family as it was the treachery period. And most of my time was spending with my friends. Slowly, u would have a gang of friend.
It is so called "best friend"

For sure, i do have a group of friends. We were very very big gang, we always hang out tgt in school. It was looked like gangster.. And yet, it decreases slowly~~
Within the group, of course there are still sub groups...
I could remember, i wrote quite a number of 'articles' about friendship...
Time doesnt wait nor stop, finally we left our secondary school towards our dream and future.

At first, we would say...
Wish not to be apart with each other..
Wish... ; Wish... ... .. etc.
Slowly when time passes, u might forget ur old friends....
I'm quite lucky as i did not lose them but keep them beside me until now.

Recently, most of my friends find their partner.
I do wish them the best luck sincerely from my heart.
And yet, i found that i am losing them...
My friends seem like going more and more far away from me..

Actually i have understand the situation quite some time ago between it happens between my friends and i..
Thus i never say anything...
I remember, one of my friends said, we are such a good friend, as we put each other in the heart then it is enough.(Should be sth like this)

Yup, I was quite admit with that. But as time goes, i found that...
It isnt! No matter wat kind of relationship, it needs ur heart to develop them.
Friends, family, love one. We have to take care on them, it also need to be feed to keep growing.

Maybe i also dont divide my time evenly. I found i actually losing quite a lot of friends... The one who i can find to chat with getting lesser n lesser..
When we grow up, we are handling more and more thing
working/studying which is almost conquer all ur life, den u will spend the rest of the time with ur partner.. After tat it is family and friends will be the last one..
Therefore, as u getting older, u found that u getting lesser friend.
Thus, it is rarely to heard friends from parents.

Maybe, i still need friends~
不再友谊永固，只希望常青 ^^

年龄 · 健康

年龄，其实是一个很可怕的东西。
以前常听说，年龄是所有女人的秘密。
以前不明白当中的原因，现在，好像都明白了。
渐渐，发现自己老了。身体，生理……
开始想要照顾、保养自己的身体，深怕一天就这样无疾而终

这两天都在医院里进出，拥有更深的体会。
今天，诊所里的病人还挺多的。
我也不想坐，一直站在那里观察。
放眼看去，都是银发一族。
我看着他们，一个又一个，突然。。。
我想到了我自己，我的那一天，我到底会是怎样的？！
心中忽然一寒！ 我想不下去了。

人总是害怕自己老去。
然而，人又怎能战胜时间，保着健康？
我维持着迟睡迟起的习惯很久了，试想，何来健康？！

虽然老了，但是我还可以看见老板牵着老伴的画面。
这就是执子之手，与子偕老。
一股暖意涌上心头，很自然地。
当初的承诺，维持至今，无论贫富，健康与否。

5th Feb '09

现在的我觉得很累！
今天在医院呆了半天。（带婆婆去做MRI)
其实也没有严重的事情，只是白内障手术前的检查
在那里看人来人往，听是听非。
医院里，真的有很多很多的人。

早上九点前，妈妈就把我给叫醒。
还说了几句。情绪从此有点懊恼。

原本以为昨晚可以解决问题，后来才发现，或许我期望太高了。
我终于明白，很多时候都是女生想太多。
女生觉得问题出现时，男生往往都认为没问题。
我终于领悟了。
我有点失望，或许他给不到我想要的答案吧。
自己又不懂得解决。。。

Happy CNY!!! ^^

Happy CNY!! It is an Ox year... Without my concern, it is already the 6th day of CNY, the time flies and i have been staying at home for one week..
I had moved all my stuff back from KL as i finished my Advanced Diploma course. Now,i have my long long vacation. I dont know what could i do, however. I wish to do nth but enjoy, yet my mum said :: i never say to rest but you???!!!!
I wanted to say, i was really tired throughout the last semester especially during December. But,i could expect her answer.. So i better keep in silence.

Today,finally i start a little bit of my tidying job. I took out all my thing from my drawers and found a lot of funny thing. I'd re-read all the letters and cards when i'm free ^^ Beside that, i also found my long lost collection...

These are my old cassettesss~~ i thought they were lost..
But they are actually in my drawer... wakakkakakaa!!!
Must take out to listen when bored.. ^^

These booklets are the gift from 少年
last time i like to read them.. But i forgot d
I was really surprise when i see this collection..
OMG~~!!!

And.... Sth i bring along to school daily....
Wakakakakkakakkakaaa~
Anyway, these few thing i had thrown them away lo...
Cos, is useless and nth to do with them anymore...

Tidying the old thing really some kind of fun during ur spare time.
Hahaa~ But i still have a lot of thing to tidy... I brought so many thing back from KL >,<>

Forgiveness and Punishment

Normally i couldnt remember what i have dreamed last night after few moments from my bed
The 1st dream was, i found there is another car park in Mid Valley which i believe it doesnt exist.
I couldnt get any parking lot in the dream and my friends brought me to that car park.
And when we are leaving, one of my friends ask me to go for meal in Times Square
It is Korean food, i was dilly dallying should i go? Should i bring him along?
The point is, i do not like to eat korean food.. i think this is the reason i dilly dally in the dream.....

While the 2nd dream is about the dissertation. I dreamed of the friends who i just know them from ProDeX, we might be just talk with each other for few words since then...
It is quite funny to dream of them..
I dreamed one of them who might score A for his Dissertation...
I recall this dream when reading an article about Forgiveness n Punishment from Cleo (Dec)

The words seem like inspired me something..
Which i dont know how to express..
Anyhow, i think it is better for us to forgive someone rather than punish him/her by gossip, backbiting or outright revenge..

I think i'm self-blaming for not studying the last whole night
The environment was noisy and i couldnt concentrate on myself
And, i'm quite annoyed by that..until now....
I still couldnt get back the study mood by just sitting in front of my laptop...
Sigh~ I should forgive it but not to punish myself for not studying and subsequently do badly in exam....
I shouldnt!!!
I must go after my schedule.... ^^

Submissions...

It is the last week of my last semester, and it drew an end today
Finally i have submitted all the assignments as well as my dissertation
=)
I thought i would be very happy with that as the burden being gave off
And yet, i didnt feel any happiness in me
It is just like the same..
I still dont feel well with my current situation.
There is another exam waiting me ahead which is starting in short time
Up to now, i still do not start any revision yet
Nth to do
What to do
How to do
=(
What's happening.. so sad n moodless