谈恋爱其实是什么？！每个人应该都有自己的见解。
我认为，一起恋爱，是一起分享彼此的生活，而不是其中一方照顾另一方；另一方一味依赖其中一方。。我一直都这么认为。
有一天，有一位朋友说“是哦，现在你拍拖了，我可以跟你问你感情的问题了。” zzz =.="
我一直以来都有自己的见解，这跟我有没有男朋友没关系。可以随时问我，但请不要一直追问我的感情事。
虽然一直以来我都没有拍拖，曾经很想，曾经觉得可有可无，曾经不想。。。。
因为我觉得，一直以来我自己一个人，好好的，没必要多一个人分享或缭乱我的生活。
或许，我太眷恋自由自在的生活。
一直以来，我都有观察自己身边的情侣。
一些每天好像双胞胎，分不开。
一些每天斗嘴，好了又吵，吵了又好。
（我曾经跟一位朋友说，其实他对你很好，不要一直抱怨，应该珍惜）
*如果我看不到这一点，我一定不会说
一些感情如儿戏，换恋人如换衣。
没有多加的批评，只是觉得，这样真的开心点吗？
是不是恋爱多了，经验多了，威水点？还是，只想做不同的尝试？
一些可以一整天不联络，缺乏沟通。彼此间的‘沟通’只是交待。
最近来到新的环境，新的朋友，新的情侣。
一开始，我觉得他们很好，应该不错。怎知后来才知道，双方的记录应该都不好。
（原谅我的老土，或许多一点的恋爱经验，并不等于不良记录）
仔细观察以后，发现，女的总是要男的帮她做东西。
开始，每一天早上看到男朋友给女朋友准备早餐，很幸福，很浪漫。
可是，久了，我就觉得，有一天，男朋友会厌倦这种生活吗？因为，其实彼此都会享受别人为自己准备早餐的时刻。
好像是我第一次听说他们吵架以后，我看到女朋友准备早餐。
或许，女生都不应该做粗重的工作，这代表男生对自己的疼爱？
我只是觉得，男朋友好像做多了。
其实，一些东西女生也可以做，也可以自己学习。
一起恋爱，不一定是指定一方侍候另一方。
我认为，一起做，效果应该更好一些。
我其实不喜欢看到情侣吵架，即使只为小事争吵。
因为我觉得，吵得多了，感情一定会有裂缝。
而裂缝，或许是无法弥补的。
裂缝随时分裂，或永远留在哪里。。。
而且，有时候，这些争吵也会给我带来烦恼。
两个不同的个体，一定会有争吵时，只是，太多的争吵，便对感情造成伤害了。
或许该听听大家的想法，再寻找共同点。
没有共识，就应该无法走同一条路。
争吵，或许可以带来更多的沟通，而让彼此了解。
虽然我不赞同，只是，一些情侣甚至没有沟通，只是觉得应该交待。
就对彼此交待大家做了什么东西。或许他是你生活的一部分，但绝不是你心灵的一部分。
这或许是一种惯性依赖，只是我想，一天，大家没有了话题，往后的日子，要怎么走下去。
每天看着对方，觉得对方没变，便等于安好？
其实，生活里，还有很多可以分享的东西。人的想法、见解是会随着时间而改变。
缺乏沟通，或许一天，你会发现，你最熟悉的人，成为一位陌生人。
那是可悲的一天。
到现在，每当我看见满头银发的老夫妻牵着彼此的手走在路上，心中总是莫名感动、羡慕。
我想，两人可以走过半世人的日子，应该不简单，当众一起经历的。。。。
因为现在的婚姻也如儿戏般。婚姻不是一个保障。
我看到自己的父母，到现在还有很多的话题，一起出街，我还是深深的祝福。
希望他们可以一直这样下去。。。。
以前，对恋爱有一定的见解。那些，应该都不会错。
只是，后来才体会了一些细节，一些事情，想、说、做，未必是一样的。
生活，是一起学习、分享。
=)
珍惜眼前人，如果他/她不是对的人，或许真的不该浪费时间。
付出的未必等于回报，只是没有回报，付出的，好像白费了。
意义也没有了。
看到一些情侣分手了，不一定觉得可惜。
一些感情，是应该结束，不该浪费任何一方的感情、时间。
只是不明白，为什么一些人可以盲目地恋爱？！
或许我真的太理智，太清醒！
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Birthday in London
It was just like dreaming when I knew I'm going to spend my birthday in London.
London, such a big city where I dun ever dare to think to have such a chance to go there during my day..
Feel please to have the chance =)
And yet, i dun have any excitement in my heart though it is such a dreamy place to me.
It's just like when I had to depart from MAS.
To me, it is more important to spend the day with someone else....
My friends who I'm well know with, crazy tgt~~ My family... My love one....
I was missing them badly during the time... They are the most important ppl to me...
This could be said as my most quiet birthday I have since I came out to study, no celebration, no cake, no birthday song...
I rather to celebrate my birthday in my homeland, with someone i'm familiar to...
London has anything I want... full with crowds, foods, etc.....
I saw koreans, japanese, chinese everywhere... wondering how good London is, why are the ppl coming here?
Besides, the transportation system is so good, excellent accessibility.
And yet, i think it is just in London but not all the states in England.... Not fully developed yet.
But, it is better KL make good the place 1st..
And... I could also see ppl with different kind of fashion on the streets.. Salute to them!
And.. finally i know, London is really a big city... I walked so much there....
I couldnt believe that i could walk so far....
I think, London is somewhere worth visiting... Quite a lovely n attractive city......
Finally, at the age of 22nd, i step on London...
Been to River Thames, Tower Bridge, House of Parliament, St. Paul's Cathedral.... etc
Somewhere i looked at pics since i were so young.. long long time ago...
I couldnt believe i was there.
But, there were not as pretty as in my mind...
My birthday ended up with Korean food with my friends...
Thank you~ ^^
Even it was simple, and yet after a tiring day, they still walk further to the restaurant..
Again, i wish everyone stay healthy n happily.... beware of H1N1*
And... i hope i can score the best result i could achieve =)
22nd... hmm~~~ i remember i couldnt accept that i was 20 years old...
And, it was 2 year ago...
Jui said, we are no more 18-22... Yup, we are not....
Hope that we could face the fact, and grow more matured, more responsible with our life...
At least, to have a target to go on~~~
22nd... it seems like, i still have nth~~~
Life, keep on to go, and I didnt make any change for it..
Let it be.......
This year, no more unacceptable feel... just... no feel, missing home land...
Age, sth i couldnt control...
And i think, i should grow up as time goes on....
I hope i do...
In London, i almost forget that was my birthday... Maybe, i dun have any celebration...
Without a cake... Anyway, i'd like to buy one for myself during my lunar calendar birthday..
Sound pity...
生日，其实只是普通的一天。
只想天天都开心 =)
London, such a big city where I dun ever dare to think to have such a chance to go there during my day..
Feel please to have the chance =)
And yet, i dun have any excitement in my heart though it is such a dreamy place to me.
It's just like when I had to depart from MAS.
To me, it is more important to spend the day with someone else....
My friends who I'm well know with, crazy tgt~~ My family... My love one....
I was missing them badly during the time... They are the most important ppl to me...
This could be said as my most quiet birthday I have since I came out to study, no celebration, no cake, no birthday song...
I rather to celebrate my birthday in my homeland, with someone i'm familiar to...
London has anything I want... full with crowds, foods, etc.....
I saw koreans, japanese, chinese everywhere... wondering how good London is, why are the ppl coming here?
Besides, the transportation system is so good, excellent accessibility.
And yet, i think it is just in London but not all the states in England.... Not fully developed yet.
But, it is better KL make good the place 1st..
And... I could also see ppl with different kind of fashion on the streets.. Salute to them!
And.. finally i know, London is really a big city... I walked so much there....
I couldnt believe that i could walk so far....
I think, London is somewhere worth visiting... Quite a lovely n attractive city......
Finally, at the age of 22nd, i step on London...
Been to River Thames, Tower Bridge, House of Parliament, St. Paul's Cathedral.... etc
Somewhere i looked at pics since i were so young.. long long time ago...
I couldnt believe i was there.
But, there were not as pretty as in my mind...
My birthday ended up with Korean food with my friends...
Thank you~ ^^
Even it was simple, and yet after a tiring day, they still walk further to the restaurant..
Again, i wish everyone stay healthy n happily.... beware of H1N1*
And... i hope i can score the best result i could achieve =)
22nd... hmm~~~ i remember i couldnt accept that i was 20 years old...
And, it was 2 year ago...
Jui said, we are no more 18-22... Yup, we are not....
Hope that we could face the fact, and grow more matured, more responsible with our life...
At least, to have a target to go on~~~
22nd... it seems like, i still have nth~~~
Life, keep on to go, and I didnt make any change for it..
Let it be.......
This year, no more unacceptable feel... just... no feel, missing home land...
Age, sth i couldnt control...
And i think, i should grow up as time goes on....
I hope i do...
In London, i almost forget that was my birthday... Maybe, i dun have any celebration...
Without a cake... Anyway, i'd like to buy one for myself during my lunar calendar birthday..
Sound pity...
生日，其实只是普通的一天。
只想天天都开心 =)
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Busy life in Liverpool
Hmm... time always flies without waiting for anyone.. This is the 3rd week in Liverpool....
For the 1st 2 weeks, it was quite enjoying... We had 2 hours classes per day... Gosh, what a relax studying life here. I thought, I was wrong by expecting the hard life here.
[According to seniors, studying in Liverpool John Moores University (LJMU) is much tougher than study in Sheffield Hallam University (SHU)]
I was thinking, how could seniors said tough with such a life? 2 hours class, then u could go around the city centre, walk around, do some shopping or window shopping, etc....
Nightmare begins...
Yesterday was the starting of 3rd week with a new subject, which is about cost and financial.
When I first get the handout, I looked at the schedule of the module... My eyes brighten up with sth... "Group Presentation"
There is group presentation on the next day, and it's going to be held throughout the 2 weeks module daily. GOSH!!!!!!!
What is this? It means, we are going to have daily assignment and have to present it on the next day..... >,<
I was really really upset with that, frustrated life.... Disgusting!
Maybe it is a long time i have been having my holiday, relaxing all the way without using my brain. And yet, i think, my brain need sometime to warm up.... zzz
I dun like a rushing life, just busying doing thing from day to night, before sleep, after i wake up..
That's why, on the moment, i'm looking forward to the weekends. At least i think, i could give myself some time, to tidy up myself. And also to let my hair down....
I always need time for myself, just to tidy up my own mind, prepare for the next week. Doing sth i like to....
Tension life.
Fighting with time for the assignments...
Searching some info which we do not know previously from none....
Hope that, everything going to be fine and get used with it...
=)
For the 1st 2 weeks, it was quite enjoying... We had 2 hours classes per day... Gosh, what a relax studying life here. I thought, I was wrong by expecting the hard life here.
[According to seniors, studying in Liverpool John Moores University (LJMU) is much tougher than study in Sheffield Hallam University (SHU)]
I was thinking, how could seniors said tough with such a life? 2 hours class, then u could go around the city centre, walk around, do some shopping or window shopping, etc....
Nightmare begins...
Yesterday was the starting of 3rd week with a new subject, which is about cost and financial.
When I first get the handout, I looked at the schedule of the module... My eyes brighten up with sth... "Group Presentation"
There is group presentation on the next day, and it's going to be held throughout the 2 weeks module daily. GOSH!!!!!!!
What is this? It means, we are going to have daily assignment and have to present it on the next day..... >,<
I was really really upset with that, frustrated life.... Disgusting!
Maybe it is a long time i have been having my holiday, relaxing all the way without using my brain. And yet, i think, my brain need sometime to warm up.... zzz
I dun like a rushing life, just busying doing thing from day to night, before sleep, after i wake up..
That's why, on the moment, i'm looking forward to the weekends. At least i think, i could give myself some time, to tidy up myself. And also to let my hair down....
I always need time for myself, just to tidy up my own mind, prepare for the next week. Doing sth i like to....
Tension life.
Fighting with time for the assignments...
Searching some info which we do not know previously from none....
Hope that, everything going to be fine and get used with it...
=)
Sunday, June 7, 2009
聊天
刚刚，突然有一位不太熟悉的朋友到我的房间来聊天。其实，只是普通谈天。
在我们这种阶段，很自然就会聊到毕业以后要到哪里工作。
听她说完，我觉得自己很幸福。在外读书的这些日子，我并没有打过工。
一路以来，都在享受生活。日子总是嘻嘻哈哈，除了功课的压力，基本上已经没有了。
我从来不担心钱不够用，也从来不想要向任何机构借钱读书。
毕业以后，就只需要给家人生活费，如果允许，就给更多，以作这么多年来的养育之恩
我们当然也有聊聊这里的生活。她说，她希望留在这里，因为马来西亚无法赚钱。
（她还有一大笔读书债）因此她说，想在这里工作。是的。。。因为兑换率，而且没有繁忙、古燥的生活。
或许他们努力过，他们已经迈进享受的时候。
这里的人，日出而作，日入而息，很享受的生活。
吉隆坡，车水马龙，四处喧哗。。。。。
再来，便聊到感情。她说，很多情侣来了英国读书以后，毕业以后，便分道扬镳
原因是因为双方都坚持在自己的家乡工作，从此断绝联络。
听来好像很残忍，可是这就是事实。
两个人在一起，就要相互忍让，互相迁就。
但愿，我没有这样的一天。
渐渐，对于自己的这一段感情建立起一定的信心。坦白说，对我来说不容易。
忽然听到这样的事实。。。 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！
对于前程，我还不知道。
因为，我觉得马来西亚比较有归属感。
因为，我不知道自己是否可以度过一个人的日子。
农历新年，中秋，冬至。。。。。。。。。佳节倍思亲。
突然，前路茫茫
累，晚安
在我们这种阶段，很自然就会聊到毕业以后要到哪里工作。
听她说完，我觉得自己很幸福。在外读书的这些日子，我并没有打过工。
一路以来，都在享受生活。日子总是嘻嘻哈哈，除了功课的压力，基本上已经没有了。
我从来不担心钱不够用，也从来不想要向任何机构借钱读书。
毕业以后，就只需要给家人生活费，如果允许，就给更多，以作这么多年来的养育之恩
我们当然也有聊聊这里的生活。她说，她希望留在这里，因为马来西亚无法赚钱。
（她还有一大笔读书债）因此她说，想在这里工作。是的。。。因为兑换率，而且没有繁忙、古燥的生活。
或许他们努力过，他们已经迈进享受的时候。
这里的人，日出而作，日入而息，很享受的生活。
吉隆坡，车水马龙，四处喧哗。。。。。
再来，便聊到感情。她说，很多情侣来了英国读书以后，毕业以后，便分道扬镳
原因是因为双方都坚持在自己的家乡工作，从此断绝联络。
听来好像很残忍，可是这就是事实。
两个人在一起，就要相互忍让，互相迁就。
但愿，我没有这样的一天。
渐渐，对于自己的这一段感情建立起一定的信心。坦白说，对我来说不容易。
忽然听到这样的事实。。。 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！
对于前程，我还不知道。
因为，我觉得马来西亚比较有归属感。
因为，我不知道自己是否可以度过一个人的日子。
农历新年，中秋，冬至。。。。。。。。。佳节倍思亲。
突然，前路茫茫
累，晚安
Saturday, June 6, 2009
All About Me = YaNQl
It has been a real long long time i dun update myself in the blog.
It is all because of the laziness in my body, running everywhere throughout my body from head to toe.
The long 4-mths holidays had marked an end, and i already started a new life in Liverpool. Which mean, i have to continue to study again.
After so long, i dunno is it ok for me to pick up myself in study.
It was about preparing the resit paper... Den, unknown direction...
Dunno could i pass the paper even i know how to do. Just worried about the paper, maybe the lecturer purposely to mark strictly.. Or.... etc
I could felt the strong heart beat when i was checking my result..
Thanks God, i had passed the paper and immediately to prepare myself to Liverpool...
During that time, my maid's contract terminated and have to help mum for house works at home...
After sitting n eating at home for months, it's really tiring to work so 'hard' everyday... I'm sure that my stamina had reduced tremendously...
I felt tired..... zzz
Until the eve before i depart to Liverpool...
I felt a lot ppl concerning on me. My aunts & uncles kept calling to me, chatting to me...
My aunts even on-leave just to send me to airport... Oh no!!!!!
Thousands of thank you in my heart to them... =)
[Hmm, honestly, i not really wan to leave MAS]
The moment the aeroplane departed from KLIA, my tears well up in my eyes.
I wished to stay... That is somewhere belongs to me, and i have all my thing there..
Family, friends, and everything.........
During the 1st night here, i really felt the loneliness when i turn off the light and prepared to sleep...
Felt to cry again... ;'(
I couldnt believe i had become such a gal.... I was so tough......
Maybe a cancer does really love home.
There was none excitement grown in my heart even the moment i arrived in London airport.. >.<
Sorry for tat, not to show off or anything...
During the 1st few days, i saw planes flying above the sky...
I was thinking, when would i take plane again and back to somewhere i belong to?
After a week, i had settled down, and getting used to here...
And yet, in my mind.. i still wish the arrival of the day to return home.
At here, white men everywhere.. Sometimes, i couldnt understand what they talked to me. Learning the new culture...
Shops shut in the evening, probably no night life...
silent streets since around 8pm... Cool weather~~~ bread meals...
It isnt hard for me to suit myself into a new life...
But i do really miss home...
Here, i get new friends.. but i dun really talk much to them...
I miss my best friends....
Maybe, i'd love the life here.. soon, or never...
Just wish that i'd experience sth here before i leave...
=)
It is all because of the laziness in my body, running everywhere throughout my body from head to toe.
The long 4-mths holidays had marked an end, and i already started a new life in Liverpool. Which mean, i have to continue to study again.
After so long, i dunno is it ok for me to pick up myself in study.
It was about preparing the resit paper... Den, unknown direction...
Dunno could i pass the paper even i know how to do. Just worried about the paper, maybe the lecturer purposely to mark strictly.. Or.... etc
I could felt the strong heart beat when i was checking my result..
Thanks God, i had passed the paper and immediately to prepare myself to Liverpool...
During that time, my maid's contract terminated and have to help mum for house works at home...
After sitting n eating at home for months, it's really tiring to work so 'hard' everyday... I'm sure that my stamina had reduced tremendously...
I felt tired..... zzz
Until the eve before i depart to Liverpool...
I felt a lot ppl concerning on me. My aunts & uncles kept calling to me, chatting to me...
My aunts even on-leave just to send me to airport... Oh no!!!!!
Thousands of thank you in my heart to them... =)
[Hmm, honestly, i not really wan to leave MAS]
The moment the aeroplane departed from KLIA, my tears well up in my eyes.
I wished to stay... That is somewhere belongs to me, and i have all my thing there..
Family, friends, and everything.........
During the 1st night here, i really felt the loneliness when i turn off the light and prepared to sleep...
Felt to cry again... ;'(
I couldnt believe i had become such a gal.... I was so tough......
Maybe a cancer does really love home.
There was none excitement grown in my heart even the moment i arrived in London airport.. >.<
Sorry for tat, not to show off or anything...
During the 1st few days, i saw planes flying above the sky...
I was thinking, when would i take plane again and back to somewhere i belong to?
After a week, i had settled down, and getting used to here...
And yet, in my mind.. i still wish the arrival of the day to return home.
At here, white men everywhere.. Sometimes, i couldnt understand what they talked to me. Learning the new culture...
Shops shut in the evening, probably no night life...
silent streets since around 8pm... Cool weather~~~ bread meals...
It isnt hard for me to suit myself into a new life...
But i do really miss home...
Here, i get new friends.. but i dun really talk much to them...
I miss my best friends....
Maybe, i'd love the life here.. soon, or never...
Just wish that i'd experience sth here before i leave...
=)
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